Is there a such thing as the "perfect match"? To be honest I have no idea! However, I do have an opinion on the subject!! I think we are all created unique and individually. There are no two people on earth who think alike about everything, like all the same foods, activities, cars, design, etc. But I think we all know when we are talking about the "perfect match" we are talking about a man and women being together for a long long time or "until death do us part". When you look at it like that I have to say there are plenty of examples that suggest that yes the perfect match does still exist. My parents are on of the first examples that come to mind. they have been married for over 37 years and although no one believes me, both my sister and I will go to our graves knowing that they have NEVER argued and raised their voices at each other throughout their whole marriage. My father has told me on several occasions (more since I'm older and have experienced some bad and sometimes just ridiculous relationships) that when he first started dating my mom and even once they got married he told her that if they had to argue, fuss, or fight to be together then she didn't have to worry about a thing because he would pack up his stuff and leave. They are still together, without a cross word or argument!
I'm not trying to get people to believe that they agree on everything and never have disagreements because they do, they just love and respect each other in a way that allows them to talk about it and discuss things without "going off". Sometimes they reach a mutual agreement and other times they just agree to disagree. But it never gets ugly or to the point of hurtful words or hurt feelings. That is the best example of love and friendship I have ever had in my own life to witness and learn from. So in order for me to answer the question: is there a such thing as the "perfect match", I would have to say yes and no. Is there a man and woman walking the earth today that are the same in what they like, believe, and do? No there is not. There are actually people together who are dating or even married that probably should have never took their relationship that far to begin with. I feel pretty confident these people will get to that point sooner or later and that is sad especially if they are married. but that is why, in my opinion, a good relationship is hard to find. I know people everywhere say that relationships, especially marriage, is hard work. And I agree with that for the most part. Yes, life throws us curves and challenges here and there, and sometimes situations are hard to deal with. A death in the family, unexpected accident, sudden loss of job, etc. these are all parts of life that are hard and hard on a marriage. However, I don't believe the statement "marriage/relationships are hard work" necessarily has to mean that the relationship between the two involved is hard to keep good or happy; especially if the two people have a very good understanding of each other and how each other deals with life's surprises.
I hate when I ask someone how things are going and they start talking about how them and their girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife can't get along. I usually ask what they are doing to do and 95% usually say something like; "Well, I love him/her and we're going to make it work". Unfortunately that often means that one is going to try while the other doesn't think or is even aware that he/she is doing anything wrong. And sometimes it means they both think they are right so they just wait around for the other to "come to their senses"; all the while both people are doing nothing but getting frustrated and more miserable around each other. this ultimately leads to an increase in arguing and more frustration until is finally blows up into a bigger worse situation than there ever should have been. I know how hard it is to walk away from something you know is not going to anywhere or going backwards or even is just not a good situation. I know what its like to hang on and hope things will get better and work themselves out; but the simple truth is somethings just aren't supposed to get better or work out because they were wrong from the start. And no matter how bad two people want to be together if only one person is willing to change then it will not work. Oddly enough, if its not meant to be or was wrong from the start then I have bad news; it won't matter how bad you want it or how hard you both work on it you won't find satisfaction with that person because it wasn't meant to be. It's like taking a friendship to the next level or dating relationship to the next level too soon or simply for the wrong reasons. The end result is hurt feelings and discontent towards the other person which leaves you with nothing, not even a friend. This is what happens when people try to make something out of nothing and by the time they realize they tried to force something or whatever it is too late and they are headed for disaster.
Once again, these are just opinions and in no way do I think that I am 100% right about them, they are just 100% the way I think and how I think about certain situations. Thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts.......... I welcome any comments as usual!
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